Addicted To Chaos

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We all know that person, it’s not any of us reading this today, but we all have that friend……yeah, that’s it, that friend who is addicted to chaos. They aren’t happy unless there is drama. If you ask them how they are, you had better be prepared for the dramatic answer. They are always fighting with their boyfriend because if there isn’t the fear of breaking up at any moment, well then it’s just boring and that boredom may be the thing to break them up. If they aren’t fighting with their spouse and can’t take another minute in their marriage, then life would not be worth living.  Only they’ve been telling you that for 10 years now. If they weren’t in turmoil at work, then they wouldn’t be worthy of a paycheck. If they weren’t gossiping about a friend, then they would have nothing to talk about. They fight with their parents, their friends, their boyfriends or husbands, their co-workers, their children and any other relationship you can think of because, if there isn’t constant chaos then there is no reason for life. They live in constant stress and pressure but this is where they get their kicks. See, just as we get addicted to coffee, cigarettes, alcohol, food, video games, gambling or whatever we can get addicted to  the feeling of chaos. Chaos causes its own sensation of turmoil and worry. If a person addicted to chaos can’t find any in their own life, they’ll produce it. A person addicted to chaos, likes to see things turned up on edge, they get high off that feeling of living on that edge of emotional danger. They SAY they want PEACE but they don’t work towards it, they only work towards stirring the pot. They like for things to be stressful, they feed on that stress like a junkie.Peace makes them nervous.

Peace in your life is a simple way to live. It doesn’t bring all the drama and effect but it’s an easy, more creative way to live. To look at things simply and take moments to breathe is healthy. Doug and I started out our marriage with anything but peace. If I told you that for us it was what we imagine hell would be like, it would be a poor description of how we felt. We had a lot to work out but we did it and we’ve enjoyed our life together since. It’s not without it’s arguments, which Doug says are discussions.We now go weeks without miscommunication and we both love and thrive in the peace. For some people the peace we so love would be the hell we felt in the chaos.

Just as with any addiction you have to decide that you no longer want to live like that. Today, I pray that as you read this blog if there are things that are sticking out to you that make you wonder if you are addicted to chaos or if you are a co-dependent of someone who is addicted to chaos that you make a decision to leave this lifestyle behind. That you decide that this does nothing for you and that you can find peace to live a beautiful life without all the drama.

Finding help to deal with the chaos in your life is a very smart idea. Often there are triggers that you can learn to avoid. Don’t put it off. Believe it or not, living peacefully is easier and will increase your clarity and creativity.

Fat Dumb and Not So Happy

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I was listening to Dr. Oz today on Alzheimers and its correlation to obesity. It seems that according to his radio program about 50% of all Americans over the age of 85 will have this disease. 50%. Half. That number seems incredible. The fact that we are living longer means we want to have more quality of life. 85 when you’re living to be 100 means 15 years of not knowing what is going on in your life.

They are finding that obesity and lack of exercise are a direct link. Bottom line, we’ve got to take more control of our health. We’ve got to know about the hormones that are in our meat. We’ve got to get more concerned about our kids reaching puberty at younger and younger ages. We’ve got to learn to cut back or eliminate soda and processed sugar and dairy. Do you realize what a strong lobby these industries have in Washington? It’s big business to keep you unhealthy!

Meanwhile, I see obese children at younger and younger ages. They break my heart. They wear clothes are way too old for them because nothing in their age group fits and they can’t move the way other children do. Morbid obesity is anyone with a BMI index of 40. We overfeed ourselves, our kids and our pets. Let’s informed and let’s get moving.

Also, don’t let your brain go to mush. Read! Do puzzles, get a hobby, challenge yourself! Let’s be healthy, smart and happy.

If The Shoe Fits

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Ah, shoes and me go together! Except for bed I wear them all the time. There is a shoe store that has rows and rows and rows of shoes and I like to go through each and every row, try shoes on and walk around. Right now, me and a pair of Carlos Santanas have a thing going on but my eye is always roving so that may change. I’m a very loyal friend but loyalty ends at my shoes.

I justify my shoe habit quite well thank you very much. You see, God is concerned about soles! I need shoes I don’t just want them. See, I use shoes for occasions; there are shoes that I wear to workout, they are two pairs of New Balance light blue and dark blue and they work perfectly at the gym. My Santanas would never do at the gym. There are casual shoes like my Sketchers or church shoes like my Via Spigas. All kinds for all different things, hey I even have bowling shoes for my annual voyage to the alley. And of course there are my flip-flops!

When I was a kid I clomped around in my mom’s shoes and my grandma’s shoes. I liked wearing them but they didn’t fit. It wasn’t time for me to wear them yet and they weren’t for me in the first place. I clomped around in them pretending that they fit and believing that they made me grown up.

I wear a size 7.5 shoe. I always try them on at the store because sometimes they run a little small and I have to get an 8, other times they fit but are uncomfortable and other times, they looked better in the box than on my feet. I buy them to fit me. I am not trying to be anyone else in them. I buy the ones I like and I don’t worry about other shoes that other women pick, their style isn’t necessarily mine. I am comfortable in my own shoes and I know what is for me and what isn’t. I am getting decidedly better at weeding out those yesterday shoes and giving them to Goodwill rather than hanging onto them knowing I will never wear them again.

So, tell me great women, what things in your life have you been wearing because someone else told you it looked good but you aren’t quite convinced that you’d pick on your own? What things do you wear because it’s tradition passed on from your mom and you clomp around in it but it doesn’t fit, possibly because it was never for you? What things do you wear that are uncomfortable? What was a great fashion, YES, at the time, but is a great fashion, NO, and you just can’t seem to part with it? Have you figured out that we aren’t talking about shoes anymore? Do you have options as your life transitions from situation to situation or do you stand in the gym wearing the heels?

I Don’t Know

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“Mommy can I have a cookie?” Casey came running to ask me one day when she was three years old.
My answer: “Not right now, because it’s too close to lunch. After lunch you may have one.”
“Okay”, she answered.

I remember this day clearly; I was busy changing sheets on all the beds at the time. As I was coming down the hall to the laundry room with a basket full of dirty bed sheets, I see Casey with Oreo crumbs all over her face and her shirt.

“Casey, did you get a cookie?”
“No.”
“Then how come you have Oreos all over your face?”
“I don’t know.”

I walked over to the kitchen and there is a chair by the counter that wasn’t there before. So she had asked the question, received the answer and clearly gone ahead and done it anyway. She had to have thought it through, grabbed a chair from the dining room, climbed up on the chair, climbed up on the countertop and opened the cabinet door, grabbed her cookies and ate them. She had decided the cookie was worth the consequences.

It reminds me of what we do so often in that we hear the no and do it anyway. Those who follow Christ say things like; it was the devil who made me do it! Let’s be honest though, most of the time the devil doesn’t even have to work that hard. We can do bad all by ourselves, to coin a phrase by Tyler Perry. So often if we look back on the things that we know we weren’t supposed to do, we did the thing, with full knowledge that it was wrong. The question then becomes, why do we act shocked when we get caught in our situations?

That day, Casey got a time out for her disobedience and she cried and said sorry. More often than not though, what I see in adults is a tendency to look around in shock and wonder how they got into their situation.

I DON’T KNOW!

I think I would fall out my counseling chair if just once I heard, “I know exactly how I got into this situation, I knew better and instead I did …….” Instead I hear, “I don’t know how this happened to me.” As if trouble was a deep pit in the road and as you were walking a giant magnetic force pulled you into the pit and.. okay, that’s crazy enough, let’s just be honest.

Our relationship with each other deserves more than a pat answer of I don’t know. Our relationship with God deserves more than I don’t know. Knowing ourselves deserves more than I don’t know. The only way to have a positive future is to examine ourselves on a regular basis. Don’t procrastinate from these regular assessments. The longer between each one, the more rationalization happens and the less we are aware that we are heading down the wrong path.

The BP Guy

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The Back Pew Guy, Jeff Larson, is a daily read for me. He’s a great writer, he’s funny and has the best cartoons! He sees things from a different perspective and that always makes me think and smile. Today I have posted one of his articles, as well as the link to sign up to receive his email. I think you’ll like him and I think you’ll agree with his perspective.

Getting what I DESERVE!

Simply I deserve the BEST. I deserve all that life can offer, and more! I
deserve a wonderful wife, kids that make me smile, dogs that don’t eat food
off my kitchen counter, and a cat that does NOT hack up hair balls. I
deserve true friends, a healthy family, a rich church heritage, and I
deserve HEAVEN.

You may be wondering if have been sippin’ on the ‘Name It, Claim It’
koolaid. Hmmm maybe I am… and maybe I am a ‘Prosperity Gospel’ believer
too. I have never spoke in tongues, but who knows.. I might give it a
whirl.

So while I have never been on TV, and I live a quiet existence on the
frozen tundra of Maple Grove Mn. But.. I want to get what I deserve!.

I do work hard though I continue to make mistakes daily.. maybe on the
hour, BUT I DESERVE God’s grace and blessings in my life in a way that are
BEYOND MY DREAMS. This means I don’t have to live in regret of past
mistakes, and what the devil (there really is one) plans for bad in my
life…

God can use and bless in ways that I never saw coming.

I deserve God’s grace because He says I do, and because He is good and
kind, and PERFECT.. my sins are forgiven and are only the past, and the
past should be a memory free from pain that can now encourage me about this
complete forgiveness, and this grace realized for myself and others.

No more hiding of sins.. no more hiding my faults.. I DESERVE better than
this. So when I fall, and I might just fall again this very hour.. I will
get up.. I will do my best, and I will trust in God while motivated by my
desire to Love God with all my soul, heart, and mind, and to love others as
I love myself.

You see I DESERVE a life uncluttered by thoughts and worries focused on
me. I DESERVE a life free from guilt, and not reluctant to ask for
forgiveness.

I DESERVE the very best in life.. PROSPERITY measured in service..
HAPPINESS uncluttered by circumstances, a CLEAR CONSCIENCE because of God’s
limitless grace.

Now most of you probably do not let your mind wander in circles like mine
obviously does like a hamster in a wheel, but for those who are tired,
depressed, sick, burdened with the weight of the world.. YOU DESERVE
MORE. You deserve the best that God has to offer. His best for you may or
may not be fame and fortune, health and adventure… but HIS BEST which you
deserve is the peace and perspective that passes all understanding or any
circumstance.

They say money can’t buy you happiness, but it helps calm the nerves… BUT
whether rich or poor, famous or obscure, fat or skinny, or any other nook
or cranny of this world’s class system.. we can be content… and living
unafraid, and enjoying the lives we have in ways that are beyond what we
have yet to experience. I forget (ironically) but there was some study that
says we use a very miniscule part of our brain.. well I believe we as
believers experience too often only a fraction of the blessings God wants
us to experience… and only a fraction of the blessings WE DESERVE.

May God bless each of us with lives blessed by God in ways that are NEVER
limited by our abilities, but are truly BLESSED BEYOND OUR DREAMS and as
God intends, and what WE DESERVE as his children.

Jeff
TODAYS TOON LINKS
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_prosperitygospeldropouts.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_manna_nameitclaimit.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_piglatin.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_satan_smiling.html
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_renewalofyourmind.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_hideandseek.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_2blessed.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_oceanfloor.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_dandelion_mommy.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_littleleaguesnow.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_money_calmsmynerves.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_starkravingcalm.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_playhard.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_weakestlink.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/ch_mrg.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_dogvomitproverb.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_clenched_hands.html
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_krispykreme.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/ch_kids.htm


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Lulu

I took new pictures of Lu and I love this one!

Lulu the wonder dog
Lulu the wonder dog

I learn a lot from Lulu. She really knows what’s important in her life. She has discovered bottled water. So, each night as she lays at the foot of my bed she eats her treat, then hops down from the bed and pokes me with her paw or nose. When I ask her what she wants she looks at the water bottle on my nightstand, then at her mini-bowl that is by my nightstand. I pour, she drinks. When she has finished her water, she crawls back in bed, cuddles up and goes to sleep. Her needs are very simple. I don’t think she worries about a thing. I need to be more like Lu.

I love how she makes a big deal about little blessings. When she sees the Starbucks sign she begins to howl and drool. You see, she gets a tall cup of whipped cream at each visit. The sign prompts the tail wag, the desperate howl for her treat and instantly she begins to drool. Now, I have to say, I am happy for my Chai tea but she is thrilled for her cup of whipped cream. I need to be more excited about the little things in life.

She loves Jamba Juice too and has learned to sip from a straw. This brings problems as you have to be really careful with your drink. You see, Lu thinks everything should be shared. She sees no problem in taking a sip of your drink. I tried this in reverse as she was chewing on a treat. I asked for a piece and got in her face to get her attention. She stopped chewing and pushing her bone my way and looked me in the eye. I pretended to gnaw on one side and she grabbed the other. No problem to her. She doesn’t seem to care that food will ever run out. She could care less about germs. They aren’t her concern at all. If her treat falls in the dirt, no worries. There are just too many good things to eat in her life and germs are just not a concern. I need to quit worrying about that next meal.

When I lie in bed and it’s hot, Lu doesn’t care. She spreads out on her blanket and puts her hot breath on my shin and goes to sleep. What’s a little shared drool and sweat between friends? She cuddles and loves regardless of the weather. She takes regular naps too. She doesn’t care what is going on in the world. If she is tired, she yawns, stretches, turns three times and lies down. The world can handle an hour or so without her on watch. I need to learn to rest like Lulu.

Lulu can be in the middle of eating a big fat ham bone and she is still excited to see you when you come into view. I really need to learn to go with the flow and not be thrown by an unexpected visit. Lu greets everyone lovingly. Joy, our cat, sometimes plays with Lu, sometimes not. Lu doesn’t care. She approaches her each time she sees her, wagging her tail and sniffing her. If Joy wants to play bonus! If Joy doesn’t want to even look her way, that’s fine too! Lu forgives her mood and always greets her the same way. Lu makes you feel special in her presence as if nothing else matters but you. She wants to hear all about your day and she never gossips or thinks you are just too much work.

They say that humans have an elevated purpose and are more evolved. I’m beginning to wonder if that’s healthy? Lulu seems to be a whole lot less stressed than I am. She seems to be able to go with the flow a lot more than I am. She seems to recognize the blessings in her life more than I do. She is much more forgiving than I am and she seems to be happy just to be. She believes that we have her best interest at heart and she trusts us completely to meet her needs. In return, she gives out love unconditionally! I want to be more like Lu!

Summer Menu

I don’t know where you live but where I live it’s hot, hot, hot! When the weather gets this way, I don’t want to eat. Give me some cold fruit and a salad and I am happy. However, that doesn’t quite work my husband. So, I’d thought I’d share my weekend menu with you. My hope is two-fold, one that I might encourage you and save you some time and money in the kitchen and two that you might share a recipe with me!

Last Friday, I went to the store and bought six free range chicken breasts. I came home and boiled them. The fixings were ready for the entire weekend.

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The first night, I took two chicken breasts and cubed them and made chicken salad sandwiches on whole grain bread with romaine and tomatoes and watermelon slices for dessert. Everyone makes their chicken salad differently. I dice celery, add sweet pickle relish, dill weed, sliced almonds and fat free mayo to make mine.

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The second night I night I shredded two more chicken breasts and made a mixed baby green chinese chicken salad with slivered almonds, crispy chow mein noodles and mandarin oranges in a sesame and ginger dressing. I made a fruit parfait with strawberries, bananas, apples, pears, grapes and fat free yogurt.

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The third night I took the last two remaining chicken breasts and sliced them in cubes. I made a pasta salad, with cucumbers, tomatoes, olives, mushrooms, spinach, artichokes, asparagus and italian dressing. For dessert we had pound cake panini, with nutella and strawberries, grilled on a foreman grill. The kids were still hungry so they got hot dogs on the side. The panini is easy. Buy a pound cake slice it in 8 slices. Spread nutella on each slice, add strawberries and put two slices together like a sandwich. Grill it on a panini grill or any kind of indoor grill for a few minutes until the pound cake is golden brown. Viola! It’s ready to eat.

Once I cooked the chicken the only other time I turned on the stove was the third night to cook the pasta and hot dogs. It was a simple weekend of tasty good food. I didn’t heat my home excessively baking or cooking and it was relatively healthy.

So often, we think eating out is the way to go but it is sometimes faster and easier to whip something up at home. Especially when you’ve already cooked the main ingredient that you’ll need for the dishes you are going to cook ahead of time. So what do you do to stay cool and still try to eat healthy meals?