Proverbs 17:17 – A friend loves at all times.
Something happened at TLC last week that just made me smile!
I preached a message on purses. I talked about the stuff we carry in our purses, what is necessary and what isn’t. I grabbed the purses in my closet and went to church and set them up. There were 8 of them. Four of them are going to be cleaned up to donate to the RMA thrift store and four of them I keep for sentimental value. A purse that my husband bought me on our first Christmas, one which was handmade in Africa, one that is from the 40’s that I use for decorative purposes, and one which was a splurge.
One of the women of TLC asked, “Susan are those all your purses?”
I said yes and then held my breath……..
I love clothes and shoes and purses and as a woman in ministry it is often a place of criticism. I had a Pastor’s wife come up to me once and say, “Just how many pairs of boots does one woman need? Don’t you know there are people who have no shoes?” I do in fact know that, and I do in fact, give to many missions projects but this type of judgment happens all of the time, not just to me, I’m not special. I once heard a person say, Bill Gates wasn’t being generous when he gave a gift of $100,000.00 to a project. They said, “$100,000 is like me giving $10. Bill Gates could afford to give more. Only, to me, $100,000 is not like $10, it’s like $100,000. Bill Gates could have given nothing at all.
So why did I hold my breath?
The comments. The people who are ready to pounce with condemnation. I held my breath because even though I work through the comment, it still makes me sad that I live in a space where it even matters. I realize that the comments are not my problem.
The response surprised me.
“Susan, we need to trade purses sometime. You have some I like.”
YAY! There was no negative comment or judgment. I loved it. It made me happy.
I went home and told my husband.
I told a few close friends this past week, each time with a smile on my face.
So I asked her which of the purses she liked the most? She liked an animal print one I had. You know something? I was going to give her whichever one she chose, sentimental one or not. Someone who was genuinely happy. I shared it at TLC last night and there were lots of smiles! It felt good not to be on the hot seat. It felt really, really good!
God is working on me. I pray he is working on you as well this week. May you experience little moments of happiness as you cross hurdles into your most excellent future.
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I once met a woman who owned over 100 party dresses. (She facilitated a local philharmonic and did not want to wear the same dress more than once a season.) I imagine that the manufacturers of her dresses were happy with her business. Some of that business was undoubtedly outsourced to the Developing World.
A friend of mine was the closet maker who custom-fitted her house to store these. He liked the business also.
Enjoy your freedom in Christ.