I have noticed a phenomenon that is happening in our society that I’d like to explore with you over the next few posts. I notice that we excuse our children’s behavior all the time for whatever reason. Some of our youth are on Facebook and we’re friends, so I read the news feed some of the posts were way out of line. Now, keep in mind, I am not a prude in any way, shape, or form, but some stuff was just not what I would want to have my kids writing on a public forum. I spoke to the youth and their parents. Their parents quickly went on the defense. Here are some of the responses:
Aren’t these pages a form of their private expression? Uh, NO! The Internet is so wide open that privacy and Internet are not words that even go together.
Aren’t these pages just for kids? Well, if they are, then why do I have access? Have you read the papers or turned on a TV in the last century? There are predators out there.
He didn’t do it; it was a friend of his who wrote it. So when it was discovered why wasn’t it removed?
There is a lot of pressure out there and she just wants to fit in. So in her circles of influence fitting in means what exactly?
Pastor Susan you are funny of course not but you know! No, I really don’t.
Not one, not one single parent, reacted in shock or surprise and went to change things for their child. This child’s reputation is harmed and the results in a small town are devastating. I read recently that Facebook is checked in consideration of college admission. So a post can be damaging on so many levels.
I am not just picking on anyone either. These parents are just a reflection of the rest of our society. Parents just either don’t know what to do or don’t want to be bothered. I think the greatest failure in America is that we decided we were our children’s friends. The problem with that thought process is that we aren’t. Or what I should say is, that we weren’t designed to be. We were called to be parents.
1 Corinthians 4:15 There are a lot of people around who can’t wait to tell you what you’ve done wrong, but there aren’t many fathers willing to take the time and effort to help you grow up. It was as Jesus helped me proclaim God’s Message to you that I became your father.
You know what? They won’t find their own way through life. You’ve got to lead them in the way you’d like for them to go if you want them to be successful. Children have lots of friends but only one set of parents.
3 thoughts on “Will The Real Parents Please Stand Up”
I think that could go for some adults as well. I know sometimes I’m not always the most discrete in that public forum. My sense of humor gets the better of me at times cuz I find a lot of things funny—I love irony even if I have no respect for the subject or liking for its content—so you’ve made me rethink my own behavior in this.
Good point, Susan.
I think humor can be a part of us, as can politics and other things. I should be clear that I am not talking about free expression as much as things like bullying; calling people out and calling them names, showing underage drinking, or inappropriate body parts, or even rolling joints and smiling at the camera. Those things on a college app, or military background check can affect forever.
Oh, that…I’d be afraid to show my body parts…I’d get arrested for assault on the eyes 🙂