I read a quote from a great man of God, Pastor BJ Robison, a great friend of my husband’s, who recently went home to be with the Lord. He said:

Watch the way a man treats another man’s wife and that will define his character.

I thought in terms of people at first.

• The man who eyes another man’s wife as a piece of meat.
• The man who lusts after another man’s wife.
• The man who scorns another man’s wife.
• The man who is in direct competition of another man’s wife.
• The man disregards another man’s wife, either by dismissing her thoughts or taking for granted her kindness towards him.
• The man who judges another man’s wife because of her appearance, education, or opinion.
• The man who speaks against her in public to puff himself up.
• The man who measures his own wife by another man’s wife.
• The man who feels he in a place to correct another man’s wife.

Then I began to think the church as she the bride of Christ.

• The man who is obsessed with taking her down for his own agenda.
• The man who judges the church based on her taste in music or attire.
• The man who is critical of her parts.
• The man who has taken it upon himself to change her.
• The man who tries to rule over her.
• The man who stifles her growth and creativity.
• The man who wants her doused in religion instead of salt.
• The man who crushes her with his unwillingness to change.
• The man who tries to take advantage of her.
• The man who doesn’t fear her groom.
• The man who tries to take advantage of her kindness, education, or opinion.
• The man who demands of her but doesn’t fund her.
• The man who tries to lure her children away with false teaching.
• The man who tries to kill her.
• The man who ridicules her.
• The man who finds her an unnecessary burden.
• The man who doesn’t respect her place.