He Is A Gentleman

This is the second installment of How Can A Woman Not Love The Lord? Click here to read the first.

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Merriam Webster says a gentleman is; a man of noble or gentle birth b : a man belonging to the landed gentry c (1) : a man who combines gentle birth or rank with chivalrous qualities (2) : a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior

God is the King of kings so automatically he’s noble. Is your man a king of the King?

The chivalrous qualities, and the man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior is what I want to focus on. First off, God doesn’t lie. Every word that proceeds from his mouth comes to pass. So your man should do everything possible to make his words come to pass.

Numbers 23:19 God is not a man, that he should lie, nor a son of man, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill?

Notice the bible says he doesn’t say things then not do them and he doesn’t promise and not fulfill. Yes, I know that in our human circumstance sometimes we can’t fulfill a promise because something comes up but we must always get back to it. It has to be a way of life. If your man is always saying he’s going to help you clean out the garage but he never has time, then what characteristic is like the Lord there? If he says he is going to take you on date but hasn’t then you need to notice that. Christ died for you.

1Corinthians15:3b that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures,

That’s chivalrous. To step out on the scene, see that we are in trouble and lay his life down for us, what more can be said? Your man should, as Dr. Laura says, swim through shark infested waters to get you a glass of lemonade. Yes, you can get your own but for a man to be man he’s got to do it. He needs to have the manners of a gentleman.

I am amazed how often our young men have not been taught to be gentlemen. Does he open the door for you? Does he walk on the outside of the sidewalk, does he treat you as if you were the queen? Does he respect you? God does, so should your earthly man. Some of you are laughing because you’ve never seen this kind of action from a man before. I have. So maybe you’ve been hanging with the wrong man? It’s possible. You’re getting the picture though. God is someone who cares about you. You specifically. He is always looking for ways to make your day brighter. Think about it, he created flowers for your health and well-being but he didn’t have to make them beautiful, he made them beautiful as a bonus for you.

Zephaniah 3:17 The Lord your God in your midst, The Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.”

I like this verse for this verse shows me how to love. To be in the midst means I have to be there for those I love, I have to know what is going on for how could I be in the midst and clueless? I have to take the time to say, “What’s up?”, and HEAR the answer. It means I am protected and should protect. Rejoice means I am glad and have joy and happiness over my loved ones. He will quiet me with His love, which means when I am freaking out as women do, he comes in and makes me feel safe. I need to feel safe, it’s my number one need as a woman. I need to protect those I love too, it’s an innate part of me as well. He takes me in his arms and sings a song to get me back on track and settle me down to be at peace once again. God is gentleman. I love him for not getting involved unless I ask him to. I love him because as soon as I ask him to he begins to move. Single ladies, is your man a gentleman? I pray that he is.

Those Little Blessings

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I am so not a morning person. I am not a person who looks at a sunrise in wonder, unless I’ve been up all night and wonder how it happened :), and I wake up and plead with my family not to speak. Please be quiet, please. My husband wakes up and smiles and asks how I am. My normal response usually is, “I don’t know”, while the filter that keeps me from speaking the rest of the statement, “how do you think I am? I’m tired, I’m cranky, leave me alone” kicks in and I leave the room.

So this morning when I woke up for the second day in a row to kids fighting and yelling, I was not a happy camper. I had a full day ahead of me with work and the TLC meeting and I did not need this. I got up, got dressed, took a moment to make my to do list and out the door I went. Once a week I hit Starbucks. I used to go everyday but at 3 bucks a pop, it becomes an expensive habit so I treat myself once a week, with the agreement, in my mind of course, that if someone buys me a Starbucks during the week, I don’t refuse it, but I don’t go back to buy one. Today I decided was the day for this week. I needed a coffee fix.

I wait in a forever drive-thru line, listening to cheery Christian music, but not feeling it. It is so slow that I could have brewed the coffee myself. I get up to the window and a guy with a tongue ring that is annoyingly clicking on his teeth, asks me what I ordered. He explains that he “literally” just got there and is totally confused. I tell him I ordered a black coffee and a scone. I think to myself, a fellow non-morning person! He looks around confused, grabs a cup and my scone and says, “You know what? Forget it! I seriously don’t know what is what yet, so I am not going to ring you up. It’s on us this morning, have a great day!”

Suddenly, I am awake and happy! I give the guy a tip and drive off. I don’t believe in accidents, I don’t believe in coincidence or by chance moments. I believe my day is ordered and designed by God when I allow it to be. Even though I had only had a brief conversation with God that morning, seriously brief and terribly lacking I must confess it was pretty normal and typical for our relationship. In fact, my first words to God was when I was in my car and I noticed my rose bushes were blooming beautifully.  I said, “Thanks God for a beautiful home and a beautiful life. Help me today.” THAT WAS IT! It was a typical Susan speaks to God first thing in the morning conversation. He knows I don’t really speak until after 10 am and it wasn’t even 9 yet. Today He decided that I needed to see the beauty in the world first thing in the morning, and honestly for me to notice anything in the morning is truly THE MIRACLE today.

So he gave me a little blessing here and there. Beautiful blooming roses, red, white and pink and free hot black Starbucks coffee and a scone, which by the way, I rebuked the calories, not sure if that works or not but I do it all the same.

I was smart enough to see his hand in it and I am praying that you see the little blessings he brings your way daily and are wise enough to acknowledge them. Don’t miss the beauty of the Lord. I went straight to the office and turned on the old Desperation Band CD I’ve been listening to and forwarded to Amazed whose lyrics I post here as I sat down and drank my free coffee and scone and quietly woke up to a beautiful day and those little blessings.

You dance over me

While I am unaware

You sing all around

But I never hear the sound

Lord, I’m amazed by You

Lord, I’m amazed by You

Lord, I’m amazed by You

How You love me

How wide, how deep, how great Is your love for me


A Day Off

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Yes, I get ONE! Despite what most people think about those of us who work in ministry,  we don’t just hang out all week and preach for an hour on Sunday, there is lots of church work to do. Plus, I have mom duties and daughter duties and wife duties and church duties and me duties and household duties. All in all, I am a typical American Woman! But this week! Yes! It paid off. I haven’t done this ever, but I woke up and checked the temperature for Monterey Bay. It’s usually cold and foggy there but I was hoping to play hooky there on Friday and go for a few hours and get some (maybe) sun and some quiet time with the Lord. I checked the weather and today it was going to be in the 80’s and sunny but the rest of the week it was going to be in the 50’s and cloudy.

SO! My husband was sleeping and I thought but didn’t say out loud, “Please wake up! PLLLLEEEEEAAASSSE!” and VIOLA! his eyes opened and he smiled, because he is a morning person, not because I was so close to his face he could feel my breath! I said, “Let’s get out of here!” He looked wide eyed, like you do when you first wake up and you don’t know where you are, and I said, “C’mon, take me to the beach.” So off we went. By 11 am we were sitting on the beach, bottled water and book in hand and as promised it was a warm day there. We stayed there until 3 pm then rushed home to get the kids fed and to a recital and then I had some cleaning to do. Yep, even though I played, I still had work to do!

I’m happy today for the blessing of a surprise and a break from the norm. I’m happy to be in love with my life and the Lord whom I joyously serve (most days). Yes, there are problems and yes, there are things that are hard in my life but God knows just what I need, when I need it. I looked out at the water and the waves with tears streaming down my face today for the gratitude of a gift for no reason. Profoundly happy for a true day of rest because you just don’t get enough of these (or at least I don’t). Thankful for a world created today just for me because my God loves beauty and he loves to see me happy. Digging my feet into the grains of sand, knowing that the Lord created each one for this moment in time, knowing I would be there in that moment. I sat still and raising my face to the sun with a cloudless sky and a breeze coming in because He knows I like it warm and breezy but not hot, I sang this song by Desperation Band, which I’ve dusted off the cover of and began to listen to again;

The whole earth is full of your glory

The whole earth is full of your glory

And you reign victorious

You reign victorious over all

For great is the Lord and worthy of praise

Lift up your voice and lift up His name

The heavens declare our God is the King

We join in the song that the angels sing

The nations will praise you forever

The nations will praise you forever

For you reign victorious

You reign victorious over all

You have to recognize those beautiful moments and give thanks. They didn’t get here by accident they got here because there is a God, whether you know it yet or not, who loves you and loves to see you smile!

How Can A Woman Not Love The Lord?

My friend Cynthia (hi Cynthia!) sent this email to me and it was powerful. I’d like to take each point once a week and expand on it. As I do, first think about how much God loves you. Next, for you who are single, pay attention to God’s attributes. After that, each time you date a guy, put God’s attributes up against the attributes of the man you are dating. If he has them, he’s a keeper.

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* He is a gentleman
* He is a confidant
* He is a provider and protector
* He is rich and powerful
* He owns everything, there is nothing He wouldn’t do for me
* He perfects all things concerning me
* He anticipates my wants and needs
* Every day He tells me and shows me how much He loves me
* I don’t have to perform in order to earn His love
* He keeps all of his promises
* No one can influence His opinion of me
* He is the ultimate intimate partner
* He can’t “disown” me because I am a part of Him
* He prepares a table before ME (Selah)
* He covers me and doesn’t expose me
* He wrote his loving words down so that I’ll never forget how He feels about me!

The BP Guy

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The Back Pew Guy, Jeff Larson, is a daily read for me. He’s a great writer, he’s funny and has the best cartoons! He sees things from a different perspective and that always makes me think and smile. Today I have posted one of his articles, as well as the link to sign up to receive his email. I think you’ll like him and I think you’ll agree with his perspective.

Getting what I DESERVE!

Simply I deserve the BEST. I deserve all that life can offer, and more! I
deserve a wonderful wife, kids that make me smile, dogs that don’t eat food
off my kitchen counter, and a cat that does NOT hack up hair balls. I
deserve true friends, a healthy family, a rich church heritage, and I
deserve HEAVEN.

You may be wondering if have been sippin’ on the ‘Name It, Claim It’
koolaid. Hmmm maybe I am… and maybe I am a ‘Prosperity Gospel’ believer
too. I have never spoke in tongues, but who knows.. I might give it a
whirl.

So while I have never been on TV, and I live a quiet existence on the
frozen tundra of Maple Grove Mn. But.. I want to get what I deserve!.

I do work hard though I continue to make mistakes daily.. maybe on the
hour, BUT I DESERVE God’s grace and blessings in my life in a way that are
BEYOND MY DREAMS. This means I don’t have to live in regret of past
mistakes, and what the devil (there really is one) plans for bad in my
life…

God can use and bless in ways that I never saw coming.

I deserve God’s grace because He says I do, and because He is good and
kind, and PERFECT.. my sins are forgiven and are only the past, and the
past should be a memory free from pain that can now encourage me about this
complete forgiveness, and this grace realized for myself and others.

No more hiding of sins.. no more hiding my faults.. I DESERVE better than
this. So when I fall, and I might just fall again this very hour.. I will
get up.. I will do my best, and I will trust in God while motivated by my
desire to Love God with all my soul, heart, and mind, and to love others as
I love myself.

You see I DESERVE a life uncluttered by thoughts and worries focused on
me. I DESERVE a life free from guilt, and not reluctant to ask for
forgiveness.

I DESERVE the very best in life.. PROSPERITY measured in service..
HAPPINESS uncluttered by circumstances, a CLEAR CONSCIENCE because of God’s
limitless grace.

Now most of you probably do not let your mind wander in circles like mine
obviously does like a hamster in a wheel, but for those who are tired,
depressed, sick, burdened with the weight of the world.. YOU DESERVE
MORE. You deserve the best that God has to offer. His best for you may or
may not be fame and fortune, health and adventure… but HIS BEST which you
deserve is the peace and perspective that passes all understanding or any
circumstance.

They say money can’t buy you happiness, but it helps calm the nerves… BUT
whether rich or poor, famous or obscure, fat or skinny, or any other nook
or cranny of this world’s class system.. we can be content… and living
unafraid, and enjoying the lives we have in ways that are beyond what we
have yet to experience. I forget (ironically) but there was some study that
says we use a very miniscule part of our brain.. well I believe we as
believers experience too often only a fraction of the blessings God wants
us to experience… and only a fraction of the blessings WE DESERVE.

May God bless each of us with lives blessed by God in ways that are NEVER
limited by our abilities, but are truly BLESSED BEYOND OUR DREAMS and as
God intends, and what WE DESERVE as his children.

Jeff
TODAYS TOON LINKS
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_prosperitygospeldropouts.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_manna_nameitclaimit.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_piglatin.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_satan_smiling.html
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_renewalofyourmind.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_hideandseek.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_2blessed.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_oceanfloor.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_dandelion_mommy.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_littleleaguesnow.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_money_calmsmynerves.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_starkravingcalm.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_playhard.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_weakestlink.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/ch_mrg.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_dogvomitproverb.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_clenched_hands.html
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/0_krispykreme.htm
http://thebackpew.com/backpew/ch_kids.htm


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Theology At Midnight

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It is in the tests of life when we find out what we believe isn’t it? Oh, it’s easy to say what we would do given a certain situation when that situation hasn’t touched our lives but when it does, well, sometimes it becomes a different story. Sometimes we discover that the our belief system entered our head but it didn’t quite make it to our heart. Therein lies the dilemma.

Do we really believe God with certainty? I know that often I’m guilty of asking a half-hearted question. I ask for His opinion on a matter but what I really want is for his His answer to be my desire not His. Yes, I repent and obey but sometimes not with a heart that really gets the whole putting my life down to follow His desire.

So what is your theology at midnight? What do you do in your darkest times when you aren’t sure anymore what you believe and what you want? Do you take a deep breath and wait for an answer knowing without a doubt that one is coming? Do you decide that your desire is something God will understand? Does what you believe seem superficial or is it ingrained deeply in your heart?

Today’s blog has more questions than answers. It’s time to search your heart and see where you stand.

God’s Not Asking For Much

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The 10 Commandments are found in Exodus Chapter 20 and they read like this:

1 And God spoke all these words: 2 “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. 3 “You shall have no other gods before me.

4 “You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. 5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, 6 but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.

7 “You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.

8 “Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. 9 Six days you shall labor and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your manservant or maidservant, nor your animals, nor the alien within your gates. 11 For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.

12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

13 “You shall not murder.

14 “You shall not commit adultery.

15 “You shall not steal.

16 “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.

17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”

So basically he says, Have one God, don’t go around worshipping your stuff, don’t use My name in vain, keep one day where you rest on and in Me, be good to your parents and I will give you the bonus of a long life, don’t kill anyone, don’t sleep with other people’s spouses, don’t steal, don’t lie, don’t be jealous of other people’s stuff. These are pretty basic rules of humanity. Yet, we can’t keep them. Crazy huh?

We call it being “human” if we lie, if we want what the neighbors have, if we love our stuff more than we love others. Yet, it isn’t. It’s living below human standards. We aren’t animals we are human beings living on the planet, called to a higher purpose of making it a decent place to live. Instead we spend our time, killing others by our gossip, deciding that our parents don’t need to be taken care of because we don’t want to be bothered.

We say as a whole we are inherently good but if we can’t live up to the basics of humanity what does it really say? All in all God really isn’t asking for much. A little love, a little kindness, a little respect, a little of my life poured out for you. Yes, it’s not much at all.

Death Is A Hard Pill To Swallow

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I just found out an old friend of mine died. We were close at one time, in our 20’s. Now, not so much. I guess I always figured that we’d have time to catch up. Our lives drifted in different directions as we grew older. I don’t know why her death has hit me the way that it has. Perhaps because she was vibrant and alive and fun and we shared a lot of good times. Perhaps because she was kind, blunt and a mother and a daughter and a sister and I am all of those things too. Perhaps, it’s because it’s hard to conceive of someone my age dying of anything other than accidents, but having some health issues I am working through these days, perhaps seeing the possibility of my own mortality hits me as well.

As humans we weren’t created for goodbyes. Before the foundation of the earth we were created for eternity. Adam and Eve killed that option for us here on earth, Jesus came back and restored us to Heaven but nevertheless at the core of our being we are created for forever. Death seems like a foreign concept to us because it is. We don’t understand it because we have no built-in mechanism for the understanding of it. Our God is eternal, thus our author thinks on a limitless realm. That is ingrained in us and no amount of death among us changes our core belief that things are supposed to live forever. Rationally, those of us who believe in a life after mortal death, know that one day we will see each other again, but even then, we can’t wrap our brain around it because it doesn’t make sense to us.

We move on, we put our memories of our loved ones in little compartments of our heart but because we were built for relationship and eternity we don’t get over death. If those of us who believe that we will see each other again have such a hard time with death imagine what those who don’t believe in a life hereafter must feel? How much worse their pain? I can’t even imagine.