God purposes every single thing in our life for good. It’s hard to believe that those horrible things in our lives were for our good but I believe they were. They stretch us and move us out of our comfort zone and our lives aren’t the same yet in some ways better if we allow them to be.
God comes to our aid, and kisses our cuts and bruises, he just doesn’t just pick us up, he walks us through. There is an obvious love that the Lord has for us that shows in the way he handles things for us.
The man that you choose to marry should want to help you right the wrongs in your life. He should want even the heavy and hard stuff to work out in your favor. He should begin with the end in mind. Life isn’t just some roll of the dice thing. Yes there are spontaneous things but for the most part it should be planned. He should not however be willing to do the work for you. The man that is looking to do the work for you is looking for the ego gratification of rescuing a damsel in distress. The minute the damsel is no longer in distress he gets stressed because he’s out of a job. So he goes looking for another damsel.
Expect a man who has planning and that vision. If it’s not there, your life will be a rollercoaster of good and bad with no way to gauge what will happen next. A woman needs to feel secure in her life. We look for that as our number one need. It’s easy to fall into a trap of a man who fixes it all but remember, the bible doesn’t say God fixes it all, it says he perfects it all. We fix our own messes, he helps heal and get us to learn our lesson. He turns the negative into a positive. He never berates us in the process. He never says ‘I told you so’.
Pastor Susan 
I read this blog this morning after having a long battle with myself and learning a lot in the process. I have been praying “yes Lord I am ready to go to the next level” I stay prayed up, I am encouraging others, I have a positive attitude so why then when I was struck with a crisis on August 10th did I not have complete faith?? My mother had to have emergency surgery on August 10th, and I didn’t think she was going to be strong enough to make it through the surgery. I had positive people around me Pastors Doug and Susan where there, the whole church was holding us up in prayer, so why did I listen to the voice of my aunt who had me convinced my mom probably wanted to go be with my father who passed away last year? I became bitter, I wasn’t praying like i should be, I wasn’t able to go to classes at church because I was nursing my mom, I was having my own pity party and didn’t want anyone around me. I realized I had some issues that were not resolved with my mother, I held on to some things from my childhood and blamed her for not being strong enough to stand up to people. I thought I had resolved all these feelings. The Lord showed me through my pity party and ugly bitterness that I was still holding on to some resentment and I could not move to the next level with unresolved issues in my heart. I have now realized I went through all this (I am sure I made it harder for myself than it had to be) for a reason. I can say that almost losing my mother has helped me to realize forgiving is what I needed to do, she is a GREAT mother and I am loved!! We need to not hold on to the past, or blame our parents for things, I have made a lot of mistakes in my parenting and what if my kids grow up with resentments towards me it would break my heart, so I cherish my time with my mother now, I am more patient and I love doing things with her. This was probably one of the hardest things I have been through but through it he is perfecting ALL things concerning me:)
What I believe about God’s design has been explained before, but it’s important to emphasize that we aren’t puppets. Our actions carry consequences and outcomes we may not like.
Sin brought the disease, death and negative outcomes to our lives. In a universe built to be improvisational within specific limits, sin messed up the equations and brought bitterness and pain.
The goodnews of the gospel is that God can redirect us, work all those things out for good and change our hearts by the experience. To me that makes Him beyond my ability to understand, but I love the fact that He can and does do this.