Compromise

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Compromise: A settlement of differences in which each side makes concessions.
The result of such a settlement.

Compromises. We make them every single day as we work together to make life easier on everyone. Today, I want to blog about compromises that we should never make because they erode our belief system.

Compromise when talking about your belief system becomes a contagious disease that will ultimately destroy who you are or who you believe yourself to be. One compromise will lead to another and another and pretty soon you will look nothing like you used to. I know most people think it won’t happen to them but it always does when we decide to take this road.

So why do we do it? Why do we compromise our belief system? There are two reasons. One, is that we never really believed that our belief system was valid in the first place. We talked the talk but could not ultimately walk the walk. We thought we believed it but when it came right down to it, the act was more important than the substance of the presupposition.

The second is that we want the person with whom we are compromising, in an unhealthy obsessive way that ends up throwing our own self to the wolves to be devoured. It isn’t a healthy love that causes us to compromise our beliefs, it’s based on a low opinion of ourselves and a desperation and manipulation. Healthy love would never ask you to compromise your belief nor would you want to.

Don’t compromise your belief system. You are worth so much more than you give yourself credit for. And while we are here, let’s talk about what I mean when I blog statements like don’t compromise. First off, I don’t mean compromising on the color of the couch we are going to buy together once we are married. I am not talking about simple everyday things like learning to live with the fact that your husband likes to sleep with the light on and you like it off. I mean things like followers of Christ who marry unbelievers with the hope that they will attend church one day. I mean allowing someone to mistreat you because you love them, or they love you. I mean dating a married man who says he is miserable and getting a divorce.

Notice that I am writing about things that will alter who you are forever and cause you to sneak around and live in shame and not openly live your life out loud. If you have to keep a part of your life a secret then you are compromising your beliefs. The reason that this is so important is that while the compromise is happening, we lie to ourselves and say, “Okay, I’ll compromise on this one thing but I won’t go any further.” The fact is that we will go further and we do because compromise is a slippery slope. Once we swallow down the bitter pill of the first compromise, the other pills go down a little easier and don’t taste as bad. Pretty soon our compromises have taken us to places we would never have gone and we look nothing like what we and God intended.

Ask yourself a very important question at this point in your reading. Have you compromised your belief system? If so, let me ask you another question. Did the person you compromised for, also compromise their belief system? I would venture to bet dollars to donuts that they did NOT. Remember a compromise is a settlement of differences in which each side makes concessions. I would bet that you compromised on the HOPE that they would hold their end of the bargain but believe me, I’ve lived long enough to know I am making a safe bet. They didn’t hold their end of the bargain and never intended to. You were played. Oh, that is so harsh to say but I say it because only truth will set you free.

So that being said, what will you do now? Will go back and get your beliefs back? Or will you stubbornly allow the initial compromise to take you out? You are so worthy of going back and taking inventory and getting your life back! It’s okay to take a positive step forward to look in the mirror and say, “I need a do-over. This isn’t working for me. This has cost me too much.” Compromise, it’s an insidious contagious fungus that will eat up everything in its path. Don’t allow it to devour you.

As Far As The East Is To The West

Psalm 103:8 The Lord is merciful and gracious, Slow to anger, and abounding in mercy. 9 He will not always strive with us, Nor will He keep His anger forever. 10 He has not dealt with us according to our sins, Nor punished us according to our iniquities. 11 For as the heavens are high above the earth, So great is His mercy toward those who fear Him; 12 As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us. 13 As a father pities his children, So the Lord pities those who fear Him. 14 For He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust.

God deals with our human nature. Sometimes though it’s hard to accept. Sometimes forgiving yourself is hardest form of forgiveness. Often it’s because we know what is inside of us. We know what we are capable of and if we are honest we know what we harbor in our heart. There is a song by Casting Crowns that so speaks to what I sometimes feel. I love the line in the song that says, I can’t live by what I feel, but by the truth Your word reveals. It’s a powerful line because it’s not what God is saying that condemns us but rather by our own thinking that seems to get us fixated on the problem (sin) rather than the solution (repentance). If we can get past the problem to the solution we’ll be blessed beyond imagination. It requires taking the problem and instead of wallowing in it and letting it consume us we must take a step back and look objectively at it. We need to make no excuses or justifications but just simply looking at it. Then allow the plan to form for the solution and begin to walk towards the solution rather than sitting on the problem. The obstacle that most often gets me is the guilt that the problem is there in first place and that it’s become as big as I think it has. Sin is personal, you opted to make an incorrect choice but sin is never private, it affects many.

Nothing that we do is greater or less than any other person on this planet as there is no sin better or worse than another. We all sin and we all fall short. The last thing God wants is to send us all to hell but rather his goal is to see us learn from our sin, turn away from it and keep walking forward to what he has in store for us. The guilt we feel only traps us in place. That feeling that the next time we mess up that God will say to us, “That’s it! I am so done with you!” Intellectually I think we know it’s not the case but sometimes we let that doubt creep in and it robs us of our life.

 

 

Here I am, Lord, and I’m drowning in your sea of forgetfulness                                                                                                                         The chains of yesterday surround me

I yearn for peace and rest
I don’t want to end up where You found me
And it echoes in my mind, keeps me awake tonight
I know You’ve cast my sin as far as the east is from the west
And I stand before You now as though I’ve never sinned
But today I feel like I’m just one mistake away from You leaving me this way

Chorus:
Jesus can You show me just how far the east is from the west
‘Cause I can’t bear to see the man I’ve been come rising up in me again
In the arms of Your mercy I find rest
‘Cause You know just how far the east is from the west
From one scarred hand to the other

I start the day, the war begins, endless reminding of my sin
Time and time again Your truth is drowned out by the storm I’m in
Today I feel like I’m just one mistake away from You leaving me this way

I know You’ve washed me white, turned my darkness into light
I need Your peace to get me through
get me through this night
I can’t live by what I feel, but by the truth Your word reveals
I’m not holding on to You, but You’re holding on to me
You’re holding on to me

Just how far, east is from the west
Just how far, one scarred hand to the other
You know just how far, just how far east is from west
Just how far, from one scarred hand to the other

New Look New Theme

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Well, here we go! A new format a new time in life! TLC is moving on up. With new followers, a new direction and a global interest, we are revamping what we do here. I am excited about the change and yet there are some things we need to clear up right up front. First off, the TLC blog of the past had some pretty good stuff to it. We’ll be posting the best of moments because many of you come back to read it time and time again and some of it, even though I am the writer, was not authored by me, but God breathed and I don’t want to lose that. 

Second, the old blog had about 100+ readers on average a day. We were able to reach a lot of people. What was cool about it was that I got a lot of email questions that I answered offline because well, it was sent that way. We aren’t going to do that the same way anymore. I think lots of the advice I gave and dialogue we shared needs to be shared with others. I don’t believe that we go through things alone or that we are the only ones going through a situation. Since the bible says there is nothing new under the sun, then only the faces and places change. The problems and triumphs are universal. So we are going more towards a help blog and a less about me blog. Yes, you’ll hear a lot less about my boring existence and a whole lot more about your exciting life and how God is working things out for all of us. So notice at the top of the page that there is a place to ask a question. Feel free to be anonymous, the point is to get your question answered. Then we can all discuss it. 

Third, we will be put on the soon to be published Oasis Internet site so you’ll be seeing a lot more about our local community and how it impacts ministry globally. I am looking forward to sharing a lot more about what we do as a church and not just about what the women’s ministry does. 

Lastly, if there is a blog that was particularly meaningful to you then let me know. There may be some things that I missed in gathering the information together. I am excited to be launching this new blog and being part of something bigger than myself. Let’s move on to greater things!